There is a Hasidic parable: A man is shown a vision of the afterlife. He is first shown a great hall with a long banquet table filled with ambrosial delights. Each diner is equipped with a three-foot-long spoon, but no matter how much they contort their arms, thrusting their elbows into their neighbors' faces, their utensils are too long to maneuver even a single morsel into their gaping mouths. They sit together, opposite and side by side, in mutual misery.
"This," says the man's otherworldly guide, "is Hell."
The visitor is then taken to another place and sees an identical banquet table set with the same sumptuous viands and the same impossible silverware. Only here the denizens are well fed, utterly joyous, glowing with health and well-being.
"This," pronounces his host, "is Heaven."
The man is baffled. "What's the difference?"
"In Heaven," says the guide, pointing delightedly as a person lifts his long-handled spoon across the table to the parted lips of a neighbor, "they feed each other."
*******
i have been the recipient of such fine and generous sharing during this last year. i feel deeply nourished and i am eternally grateful. thank you to those generous beings, you know who you are - if i haven't already lifted the long-handled spoon to your lips, i certainly will!
may we all be well nourished in mind, body and spirit in the new year.
the creative juice. the healing juice. the vital juice of life. the vibrant, nourishing juice squeezed from fresh, organic vegetables. the juice of love and generosity and profound support. juice, literal and figurative. juice, like an electrical current, that fuels powerful and radiant revelations and transformations. the juice of being and living and thriving healed.
Monday, December 31, 2012
Tuesday, December 25, 2012
Merry Christmas to all.
Feliz Navidad a todos.
Joyeux Noel a tous.
(all the languages i know...)
en-Joy
and LOVE.
nothing matters more.
we are all deeply loved.
no matter who or how we are.
it simply is
the truth.
Feliz Navidad a todos.
Joyeux Noel a tous.
(all the languages i know...)
en-Joy
and LOVE.
nothing matters more.
we are all deeply loved.
no matter who or how we are.
it simply is
the truth.
Monday, December 17, 2012
movement through relaxation
interestingly yesterday's chi gong class started and continued with an emphasis on movement through relaxation.
each time the master said those words, tears came to my eyes. my hip
has had far too many reasons to hold tight during the last year and a
half, and during my lifetime. and i'm feeling the negative impact of the habit. my hip is exhausted. i'm experiencing slower and more uncomfortable movement again when i walk. and nights filled with aching. i'm telling myself that it's just one of those steps backwards that happen on the way to full recovery - two steps forward, one step back. but it's feeling especially hard this time around.
i'm again at the ashram, so what that has to offer in the way of a peaceful environment, meditation and yoga helps. i also really need to hear from you, my friends. please be in touch.
with love...
i'm again at the ashram, so what that has to offer in the way of a peaceful environment, meditation and yoga helps. i also really need to hear from you, my friends. please be in touch.
with love...
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Saturday, December 15, 2012
relaxing into the mexican sun
earlier this year, i discovered that the air miles i’ve had tucked away for a long time would just get me to mexico city. that culture and people and a friend there and the mexican sun had been calling to me (and continue to do so). and so, i went. in october. a brilliant move on my part. as i’ve said before, i so needed to step out. in this case, to put serious physical distance between me and all that’s been so challenging and stressful and frightening during the last year and a half. oh my oh my oh my was it the right thing to do. i slept like i haven’t in a long time. i dreamed the way mexico has always inspired me to do when there. i soaked up the mexican sun and the warmth and generosity of mexican friends. i wrote. i drew. i took lovely siestas. i walked, and then - finding the hard surfaces of stone and cement, that are everywhere in mexican towns and cities both indoors and out, really tough on my hip - i biked. yes, for the first time since this earth-shaking diagnosis showed up in my life, i got on a bike, and it was fine, and then it was liberating..! as was the entire trip.
the relaxation muscle was well work-played in mexico and now thankfully it serves me well here in the states. i’d gotten too practiced in a kind of revved up way, even if outwardly sometimes it didn’t seem so. however, i know most of the time during this last year, it's been clearly evident. no hiding that level of stress. now, my whole being can and does now more readily give way to relaxation.
there’s real healing in that relaxation place. there’s space to move. space where our innate healing powers can do their finest work. space into which able assistance from the cosmos can slip in. relaxation is really the heart of meditation. i can feel it physically in the moment sometimes, something else beyond my will or wish moves me. as i sit quietly, meditating, i feel the head of my femur shift in the pelvic socket or my sacrum re-align. it feels like magic and yet it’s so very real.
i know my body, mind and spirit aches for this kind of relaxation regularly and for obvious reasons. but, i’d hazard a guess that yours does too - if not as frequently as mine, certainly often. we’re a revved up society. and it really doesn’t serve us. take time, dear friends. find the ways to deeply relax. breathe deeply. all that seems so pressing can really wait. and, a big one for me, even when doing what feels so very important, do it in a relaxed state. move through relaxation. gently. with forgiveness. and ease.
the relaxation muscle was well work-played in mexico and now thankfully it serves me well here in the states. i’d gotten too practiced in a kind of revved up way, even if outwardly sometimes it didn’t seem so. however, i know most of the time during this last year, it's been clearly evident. no hiding that level of stress. now, my whole being can and does now more readily give way to relaxation.
there’s real healing in that relaxation place. there’s space to move. space where our innate healing powers can do their finest work. space into which able assistance from the cosmos can slip in. relaxation is really the heart of meditation. i can feel it physically in the moment sometimes, something else beyond my will or wish moves me. as i sit quietly, meditating, i feel the head of my femur shift in the pelvic socket or my sacrum re-align. it feels like magic and yet it’s so very real.
i know my body, mind and spirit aches for this kind of relaxation regularly and for obvious reasons. but, i’d hazard a guess that yours does too - if not as frequently as mine, certainly often. we’re a revved up society. and it really doesn’t serve us. take time, dear friends. find the ways to deeply relax. breathe deeply. all that seems so pressing can really wait. and, a big one for me, even when doing what feels so very important, do it in a relaxed state. move through relaxation. gently. with forgiveness. and ease.
Friday, December 7, 2012
my healing path, and helping...
This has been an extraordinary year - a year of pain, strenuous
challenges, brilliant discoveries and an outpouring of love. I’ve found
out firsthand just how true it is that in every seed, in every cell, in
every moment, there is the potential for both heartbreak and joy, pain
and laughter. My work-play throughout has been, and
continues to be, to see, to focus on, and to live the joy, laughter and
love. The more I do that, the more those grow and blossom in my life,
the more they are my
life.
Financial assistance continues to be a necessity. A couple of fundraisers were held earlier in the fall, for which I am very grateful. The love quotient was definitely met, but not the financial goal hoped for. Aside from my health care needs, I’m ready to move into a place more fitting for me. It will be a healthy move, a move to heal. I need a place where I can once again paint, and a place inside a community meaningful to me. I’m looking into all sorts of different ways and places to live.
I have artwork to sell (visit Shuster Studio site) and welcome commissions (visit Portraits by Shuster page). Please share these pages with people you know who might be interested. If you are able, cash/check donations are most welcome. Other forms of support are suggested on this page of my blog: support my healing journey. Your contributions build a fund to help support me as I heal, and, further, thrive! It will go towards health care expenses and living dreams.... a great healer and artist in South Africa told someone I know: “Cancer hates ecstasy.” I believe it.
Your gifts and generosity are deeply appreciated. This kind of support, along with all the other fine support I’ve received during the last 16 months, is truly heartwarming and nourishing, and an essential part of my healing.
Thank you very much, dear friends. May your new year be filled with joy and love.
with much love,
Wendy
3580 Atwood Rd
Stone Ridge, NY 12484
Financial assistance continues to be a necessity. A couple of fundraisers were held earlier in the fall, for which I am very grateful. The love quotient was definitely met, but not the financial goal hoped for. Aside from my health care needs, I’m ready to move into a place more fitting for me. It will be a healthy move, a move to heal. I need a place where I can once again paint, and a place inside a community meaningful to me. I’m looking into all sorts of different ways and places to live.
I have artwork to sell (visit Shuster Studio site) and welcome commissions (visit Portraits by Shuster page). Please share these pages with people you know who might be interested. If you are able, cash/check donations are most welcome. Other forms of support are suggested on this page of my blog: support my healing journey. Your contributions build a fund to help support me as I heal, and, further, thrive! It will go towards health care expenses and living dreams.... a great healer and artist in South Africa told someone I know: “Cancer hates ecstasy.” I believe it.
Your gifts and generosity are deeply appreciated. This kind of support, along with all the other fine support I’ve received during the last 16 months, is truly heartwarming and nourishing, and an essential part of my healing.
Thank you very much, dear friends. May your new year be filled with joy and love.
with much love,
Wendy
3580 Atwood Rd
Stone Ridge, NY 12484
Sunday, November 25, 2012
stepping out... and giving thanks
it’s been a long time since i wrote here... it’s been a very full couple of months.
the beginning of september was very stressful. a lot of fear and anxiety was stirred up. my oncologist was not making sense and being belligerent too. i already knew i needed to step out, to change my environment. then it became pressing. so, as i shared in my last post, off to an ashram i went. it did me wonders. within a few hours, and more so within a few days, “cancer” took its proper place within the vast sphere of possibilities and realities. i was no longer hounded by the rigid idea that so many have that there is only one course for cancer to take. the world, the world in my mind, popped back open and WIDE, and glorious.
the ashram was welcoming and friendly and people genuinely wanted to help and did so in a natural and easy way. no song and dance required. at the ashram, i found that just posing a question or need idly outloud would prompt someone to volunteer to meet it. wow. what a pleasure. particularly given the big and real needs i have right now. of course i know this experience with many of you, my friends.
so, i meditated and meditated some more, practiced yoga everyday, found a very good chi gong teacher, ate healthy meals (that i did not have to prepare - which was a real pleasure given all the meals i’ve had to do solo and with great attention to healthfulness over the last year plus..), met some wonderful people, and generally greatly enjoyed living in community and at that quiet, thoughtful (and no-thought-ful) pace. i’ll return. that’s for sure. it's now an integral part of my treatment plan.
i've just met with a new oncologist - one of the two directors of the breast cancer division at Sloan Kettering - who i'm feeling cautiously optimistic about. he's the first oncologist to genuinely recognize me as a whole person, and to acknowledge that i'm both a unique person and unusual case. he sees the discrepancy between how i look on paper, ie. the diagnosis and all the accompanying labs and test results, and who and how i am in person. as such, it seems he may be capable of working with me in a way specific and unique to me. that means a lot. we shall see...
dear friends, i am very thankful for your friendship, and for your gifts of time and thoughts and conversation and letters and visits and so much more over the last year and a half.
much love to you all,
wendy
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
a retreat
i've found my way to an ashram for a meditation and yoga retreat. oh, how i did and do need this. when i first arrived, i felt immediately the stress starting to fall away from me, and how deeply nourishing this place and experience is. meditation, as some of you know, is a way to expand, to expand consciousness, to slip into the gap between, to open so as to allow spirit to enter... i feel this world so close to me now, and everywhere. it's deeply supportive and loving. i'm doing as much as i can, and also not-doing, to allow her more freedom to play in my life.
i won't be in much email or phone contact with people during my stay here. but you're always in my thoughts and i know we're making contact in all the other ways that we do.
much love and peace,
wendy
Sunday, September 16, 2012
all aglow - the party last weekend
the party left me feeling all aglow with love and smiles. truly wonderful to see the friends that came and shared their love and concern. this has been an extraordinarily stressful couple of weeks. a lot of fear and anxiety has been kicked up. the party couldn't have come at a better time, to soothe my nerves and to remind me of the overarching love that fills our universe and my community.
the weather that day was very dramatic. the whole arc of the day seemed in some way to mirror the arc of my last year, or maybe what the course of the disease has been and will be, or my life..? ... sun and clouds shared the sky earlier in the afternoon and the air was steamy, and then the clouds grew, blotting out the sun, while the air remained thick. it was about half way through the party when the wild storm blew in - the rain came driving down, the heavens thundered, strong winds rattled the barn. two big barn doors slammed shut, the musicians stopped playing abruptly, half the party jumped up and rushed over to the doors to fully close them and keep out the driving rain. one of the guests dashed out into the rain to help because she so wanted to go swimming that day and came back very much like she'd jumped in a lake fully clothed. two kids huddled by their grandmother, moaning with fear - meanwhile, the grandmother herself gets profoundly disturbed by such sky ruckus. everyone was electrified, mostly in a thrilled and happy way at the drama of the moment, the startling and immediate contact with big Mama nature. then the rain slowed, and stopped. a cooler breeze blew in... and at the tail end of the party, just after we'd brought the paintings back into jean's house for safe keeping, the light in the sky became absolutely exquisite. the clouds glowed with soft golds and pinks, and the blue of the sky to the east was dusky cerulean. our faces lit up, glowed, glowed from within and from without, in the presence of such gorgeous light.
many thanks to everyone who shared that day with me, and to the musicians who shared their sound, and to the very fine friends who participated in making the day happen. special thanks to jean and liz for hosting this lovely event in their wonderful barn in that beautiful landscape.
while the love quotient - the juice of all juices - was most certainly met, our fundraising goal wasn't. please visit this page for ways to help: support my healing journey Thank You!
love you all!
Wednesday, September 5, 2012
party at jean's barn
Please join us this weekend!
Fundraiser and Celebration for Wendy
to support her on her healing journey.
Saturday, September 8 3-7pm
at Jean's barn overlooking lovely wetlands in Kingston
to support her on her healing journey.
Saturday, September 8 3-7pm
at Jean's barn overlooking lovely wetlands in Kingston
Suggested donation.
Music, dancing, light
refreshments.
Wendy's drawings & paintings will be on view and for sale.
If you can bring food/drink to share, please let us know.
Share this invitation with others that you know will be interested and would like to participate. Thank you!
We very much look forward to seeing you there.
all the very best,
Jean
churchsed@mac.com
Wendy
shusterstudio@yahoo.com
paintings online: shuster studio
for various ways to help, visit: support my healing journey
Sunday, September 2, 2012
shedding the old skin
by Vladimir Nabokov
THERE was a Chinese philosopher who all his life pondered the problem whether he was a Chinese philosopher dreaming that he was a butterfly or a butterfly dreaming that she was a philosopher.
All three stories ["The Carrick," "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde," and "The Metamorphosis"] are concerned with transformation, with metamorphosis. Who can explain the process in entomological terms?
Transformation ... Transformation is a marvelous thing ... I am thinking especially of the transformation of butterflies. Though wonderful to watch, transformation from larva to pupa or from pupa to butterfly is not a particularly pleasant process for the subject involved. There comes for every caterpillar a difficult moment when he begins to feel pervaded by an odd sense of discomfort. It is a tight feeling -- here about the neck and elsewhere, and then an unbearable itch. Of course he has moulted a few times before, but that is nothing in comparison to the tickle and urge that he feels now. He must shed that tight dry skin, or die. As you have guessed under that skin, the armor of a pupa -- and how uncomfortable to wear one's skin over one's armor -- is already forming: I am especially concerned at the moment with those butterflies that have carved golden pupa, called also chrysalis, which hang from some surface in the open air.
Well, the caterpillar must do something about that horrible feeling. He walks about looking for a suitable place. He finds it. He crawls up a wall or a tree-trunk. He makes for himself a little pad of silk on the underside of that perch. He hangs himself by the tip of his tail or last legs, from the silk patch, so as to dangle head downwards in the position of an inverted question-mark, and there is a question -- how to get rid now of his skin. One wriggle, another wriggle -- and zip the skin bursts down the back, and he gradually gets out of it working with shoulders and hips like a person getting out of a sausage dress. Then comes the most critical moment. -- You understand that we are hanging head down by our last pair of legs, and the problem now is to shed the whole skin -- even the skin of those last legs by which we hang -- but how to accomplish this without falling?
So what does he do, this courageous and stubborn little animal who is already partly disrobed. Very carefully he starts working out his hind legs, dislodging them from the patch of silk from which he is dangling, head down -- and then with an admirable twist and jerk he sort of jumps off the silk pad, sheds the last shred of hose, and immediately, in the process of the same jerk-and-twist-jump he attaches himself anew by means of a hook that was under the shed skin on the tip of his body. Now all the skin has come off, thank God, and the bared surface, now hard and glistening, is the pupa, a swathed-baby like thing hanging from that twig -- a very beautiful chrysalis with golden knobs and plate-armor wingcases. This pupal stage lasts from a few days to a few years. I remember as a boy keeping a hawkmoth's pupa in a box for something like seven years, so that I actually finished high school while the thing was asleep -- and then finally it hatched -- unfortunately it happened during a journey on the train, -- a nice case of misjudgement after all those years. But to come back to our butterfly pupa.
After say two or three weeks something begins to happen. The pupa hangs quite motionless, but you notice one day that through the wingcases, which are many times smaller than the wings of the future perfect insect -- you notice that through the horn-like texture of each wingcase you can see in miniature the pattern of the future wing, the lovely flush of the groundcolor, a dark margin, a rudimentary eyespot. Another day or two -- and the final transformation occurs. The pupa splits as the caterpillar had split -- it is really a last glorified moult, and the butterfly creeps out -- and in its turn hangs down from the twig to dry. She is not handsome at first. She is very damp and bedraggled. But those limp implements of hers that she has disengaged, gradually dry, distend, the veins branch and harden -- and in twenty minutes or so she is ready to fly. You have noticed that the caterpillar is a he, the pupa an it, and the butterfly a she. You will ask -- what is the feeling of hatching? Oh, no doubt, there is a rush of panic to the head, a thrill of breathless and strange sensation, but then the eyes see, in a flow of sunshine, the butterfly sees the world, the large and awful face of the gaping entomologist.
******
found online here: Atlantic online
In March of 1951, in the first year that Nabokov taught his Masterpieces of European Fiction course at Cornell, he included three stories involving transformation: Gogol's "The Overcoat" (with his habitual hyperprecision he preferred to translate the title as "The Carrick"), Stevenson's "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde," and Kafka's "The Metamorphosis." Here he introduces the subject of transformation for his students.
-- BRIAN BOYD
[Unpublished.]
Wednesday, August 29, 2012
a caterpillar. and then, a butterfly.
at the end of june, as i was walking in the small vegetable garden here, the sprinkler caught me by surprise. i moved quickly and in a jerky kind of way. i felt the strain, the pull, immediately. i sprained, or re-injured my hip. suddenly i was needing to put much more weight on my cane. and then realized i needed to return to the crutches for a few days. that was a hard regression. i hobbled about frustrated and demoralized, puzzling over how such a small move could have such a large impact. the re-healing took about 6 weeks. during which time, just as my hip was feeling better, i woke one day to discover that i could not put any weight onto the cane because the right side of my torso would go into painful contraction. my torso had taken the brunt of the extra weight i was throwing into the cane during the re-healing. now the only way i could walk was without the cane and in baby steps. there's a lesson. or a metaphor perhaps. move on my new legs slowly but freely- imagine myself, know myself, to be an infant in my re-birth. give this the time it begs. one step at a time.
as my hip heals, as i feel increased mobility and strength in my physical body, i naturally want to move. and with this, i find myself in that place where i could leap too fast into an old, familiar pattern of movement or just move too fast - because i can. i remind myself to pace myself. that now, as much as ever in this healing process, i need to take my time. not that i can't leap at times. leaps are recommended in the right moments. but to balance it, surround those moves with quiet, calm time. or better yet, live the movement, of whatever kind, in a relaxed state - not racing. finding an equilibrium between inner and outer. i may need to move quickly with my body at times, but to maintain an interior calm.
when i travelled to ghana some years ago, i heard often from the people there, "take time." this is very much how they lived. some people make a silly joke about the difference in the sense of time that africans can experience versus the one that we do. the fact is, we have something to learn from them. if you'll allow me a generalization - they are not ruled by the clock, that artificial means of measuring time. their days are guided by some more organic and fluid meter. a rhythm suggested by the heat of the day, the call of companionship, the song of laughter. some people in our country manage that too. i admire that. it feels to me more like soul-living.
and so, i remind myself to take time. take time, dear wendy. go gently forward. allow yourself the organic loop-de-loops in your path. meander. and rest as needed.
******
as i lay in bed one morning recently, drifting in that space between waking and dreaming, my dear nephew, nico, now seven-and-a-half years old, appeared in my soul-mind's eye. he said, “first i am the caterpillar. and then i am the butterfly.” he said it very simply. without affect or emphasis. the most natural thing in the world.
******
take time, dear friends. and then, fly.
with love,
wendy
as my hip heals, as i feel increased mobility and strength in my physical body, i naturally want to move. and with this, i find myself in that place where i could leap too fast into an old, familiar pattern of movement or just move too fast - because i can. i remind myself to pace myself. that now, as much as ever in this healing process, i need to take my time. not that i can't leap at times. leaps are recommended in the right moments. but to balance it, surround those moves with quiet, calm time. or better yet, live the movement, of whatever kind, in a relaxed state - not racing. finding an equilibrium between inner and outer. i may need to move quickly with my body at times, but to maintain an interior calm.
when i travelled to ghana some years ago, i heard often from the people there, "take time." this is very much how they lived. some people make a silly joke about the difference in the sense of time that africans can experience versus the one that we do. the fact is, we have something to learn from them. if you'll allow me a generalization - they are not ruled by the clock, that artificial means of measuring time. their days are guided by some more organic and fluid meter. a rhythm suggested by the heat of the day, the call of companionship, the song of laughter. some people in our country manage that too. i admire that. it feels to me more like soul-living.
and so, i remind myself to take time. take time, dear wendy. go gently forward. allow yourself the organic loop-de-loops in your path. meander. and rest as needed.
******
as i lay in bed one morning recently, drifting in that space between waking and dreaming, my dear nephew, nico, now seven-and-a-half years old, appeared in my soul-mind's eye. he said, “first i am the caterpillar. and then i am the butterfly.” he said it very simply. without affect or emphasis. the most natural thing in the world.
******
take time, dear friends. and then, fly.
with love,
wendy
Saturday, July 21, 2012
one year ago...
it was one year ago yesterday that i landed in the hospital. carried out of my home on a stretcher in excruciating pain. a battery of xrays and scans later, a stunning cancer diagnosis was delivered to me.
to honor myself and this deeply challenging and extraordinary year, i've created a weekend of special events. i've been looking forward to these, and anticipating the anniversary as a time when i would reflect on what was and what is. i also found, yesterday morning, that fear and trepidation were lurking in the mix. the echoes bouncing off last year july 20 were loud and painful. they brought up sorrow and anxiety. i feel an urgency, and then remind myself to have patience, take time...
thankfully, at the end of the day, there was a blissful reprieve and a vivid actualization of the path that feels most true to me, now. i finished the day participating in a wonderful kirtan event and my soul sang for joy.
EVERYTHING IS WAITING FOR YOU
(After Derek Mahon)
Your great mistake is to act the drama
as if you were alone. As if life
were a progressive and cunning crime
with no witness to the tiny hidden
transgressions. To feel abandoned is to deny
the intimacy of your surroundings. Surely,
even you, at times, have felt the grand array;
the swelling presence, and the chorus, crowding
out your solo voice. You must note
the way the soap dish enables you,
or the window latch grants you freedom.
Alertness is the hidden discipline of familiarity.
The stairs are your mentor of things
to come, the doors have always been there
to frighten you and invite you,
and the tiny speaker in the phone
is your dream-ladder to divinity.
Put down the weight of your aloneness and ease into
the conversation. The kettle is singing
even as it pours you a drink, the cooking pots
have left their arrogant aloofness and
seen the good in you at last. All the birds
and creatures of the world are unutterably
themselves. Everything is waiting for you.
~ David Whyte ~
a wonderful interview with David Whyte can be listened to here: Being at the Frontier of Your Identity
Thursday, July 12, 2012
which way the head
a few weeks ago, i wanted to attend a short workshop given by a peruvian shaman who was in the area. during the workshop, she was to speak about the plants in the jungle of peru where she lives and that she uses medicinally in her healing work. at the end of the session, she was to create a circle and perform a healing ceremony.
i got it stuck in my head that the session started at 4pm. however, it actually began at 2pm. when i showed up at 4pm the healing ceremony was just beginning.
i slipped into the circle and waited as she went from person to person. when she came to me, she spent most of the time gesturing and sounding around my head and neck. afterwards, i sat there soaking up the reverberations. interesting that she had focused around my head. it often seems that’s where i can get the most caught up, and out. that it’s the workings of my thinking mind that need some healing. how has a pattern of thinking, a mental construct, participated in what afflicts me? and then, as i sat there, up floated this idea and feeling - “i can just giggle my way through this.” through the cancer, i mean. giggling. made me smile, even begin to giggle. why not? and, yes.
can you take that seriously? no! and yes! this gal was walloped by a very serious diagnosis last year. as such, i am fully qualified to suggest what might seem at first, second or third glance, a perfectly silly idea. but i kid you not. the gods are not at all impressed by our dour and fear-based ways. deep love and freely improvised play are the ultimate.
how interesting, no? that it was because i got the time "wrong in my head” that i arrived late for the workshop. and yet, i arrived just in time for the healing, and the healing was all i really needed that day.
*****
i visited the oncologist for my monthly visit yesterday. these visits are really too close together. and while sloan kettering does their best within that model, it is simply not a place i like to be. big revelation, i know. that is a place that most certainly needs some giggles.
*****
love to all!
i got it stuck in my head that the session started at 4pm. however, it actually began at 2pm. when i showed up at 4pm the healing ceremony was just beginning.
i slipped into the circle and waited as she went from person to person. when she came to me, she spent most of the time gesturing and sounding around my head and neck. afterwards, i sat there soaking up the reverberations. interesting that she had focused around my head. it often seems that’s where i can get the most caught up, and out. that it’s the workings of my thinking mind that need some healing. how has a pattern of thinking, a mental construct, participated in what afflicts me? and then, as i sat there, up floated this idea and feeling - “i can just giggle my way through this.” through the cancer, i mean. giggling. made me smile, even begin to giggle. why not? and, yes.
can you take that seriously? no! and yes! this gal was walloped by a very serious diagnosis last year. as such, i am fully qualified to suggest what might seem at first, second or third glance, a perfectly silly idea. but i kid you not. the gods are not at all impressed by our dour and fear-based ways. deep love and freely improvised play are the ultimate.
how interesting, no? that it was because i got the time "wrong in my head” that i arrived late for the workshop. and yet, i arrived just in time for the healing, and the healing was all i really needed that day.
*****
i visited the oncologist for my monthly visit yesterday. these visits are really too close together. and while sloan kettering does their best within that model, it is simply not a place i like to be. big revelation, i know. that is a place that most certainly needs some giggles.
*****
love to all!
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Saturday, June 30, 2012
dancing star
i've been feeding on a lot of Deepak Chopra's talks lately. in the midst of one of these inspirational and enlightening forums, he offered this quote:
"You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star."
-Nietzsche
that's a relief...
and
yes. yes. yes.
charcoal by me - aka, wendy shuster
"You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star."
-Nietzsche
that's a relief...
and
yes. yes. yes.
charcoal by me - aka, wendy shuster
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
love beetle style
today, clinging to the bottom of the orange thai pants i’m wearing, i discovered two copper-gold beetles copulating.
******
it came up again briefly this morning, that angst that’s attached to an anticipation that certain people may not continue to support me - support me in any of the forms that that can take - if i am well and even thriving. and i realized - yes, now i see it - that even if that were true, that kind of support - the kind that would leave because i am well and thriving - is not the best support possible. so, what’s the loss? not so very much.
makes me think of the old way in china - does it still operate this way in certain regions there? - where the doctors were paid not when a patient was ill but when he/she was healthy. our system here is upside-down and backwards. the doctors’ support comes when we are ill, at which time we reward them for this orientation with payment. and the support effectively evaporates when we are well; they have very little to offer then. everything is oriented to the symptom, so little to the cause. preventive care is spoken of, but focus on the ill and our ills is the rule. that is not a healthy system.
healthy or healthful is an emphasis on that which is genuinely nourishing, on what is best in a person or community or society, on the gifts, talents and special ways that lie there. healthy is placing more energy and effort into acknowledging, supporting and strengthening those vital ways. our focus creates our world. what can we do in any given moment or situation to see what’s before us and highlight the kindness or generosity or innovative thought or creation that’s there. to dwell more in the land of love and loving with everybody. am i suggesting that we ignore our ills or our ill? no, of course not. (i need that kind of attention right now!) we need to know them from the inside-out. but, with an emphasis on love and nourishment of what is best in us, the best in us flourishes, leaving less room for the ills to take hold. what follows naturally is a healthy or healthier individual, community and society.
******
love and excellent health for you all!
Tuesday, June 19, 2012
Monday, June 11, 2012
a hike
yesterday, for the first time in over a year, i set out on a hike. a hike on a trail with a gentle incline, and not intended to be very long. the site: mohonk mountain and a trail called "bontecou crag." i've hiked it many times before so i knew what the early part of the trail would be like and it seemed just the thing for me at this stage of my hip's healing process.
i set off in my yellow, high-top converse sneakers with cane in hand. the evening was soft and warm. the views of the valley and mountain ridges to the west as i passed through the fields of grasses and milkweed early on were gorgeous.
my footing was sure and strong. what a thrill to be in the woods hiking again.
i hiked up to one of the carriage trails on a narrow path and then decided to descend on this carriage trail as the slope would be more gentle. one or two mosquitos insisted on buzzing around my head during most of the walk. the descent was much longer than the ascent. for a while i wondered if i was headed in the right direction. was i on the right path? mostly an issue because i was walking with a cane remember! going too far out of my way was not advised. i began to explore the parallels to my larger life at the moment - including the mosquitos who so well represented the nagging, pesky and useless thoughts that can circle my mind. with that recognition, i took the opportunity to shift my focus, to sidle over a little to get out of my own way. i looked around some more and enjoyed the landscape i was in, talked to the trees and smaller plants, sang, followed the sun... and very soon found i was indeed on the right path, and out of the woods and on my way home.
i walked for an hour and a half!
it was really a fine day. the hike and a healing session with a peruvian shaman shared the middle of the day. and i started the day with homemade buckwheat-quinoa flour pancakes piled high with fruit and nuts, and finished with the "wizard of oz" - ha! fun to giggle through that old childhood favorite.
yesterday, for the first time in over a year, i set out on a hike. a hike on a trail with a gentle incline, and not intended to be very long. the site: mohonk mountain and a trail called "bontecou crag." i've hiked it many times before so i knew what the early part of the trail would be like and it seemed just the thing for me at this stage of my hip's healing process.
i set off in my yellow, high-top converse sneakers with cane in hand. the evening was soft and warm. the views of the valley and mountain ridges to the west as i passed through the fields of grasses and milkweed early on were gorgeous.
my footing was sure and strong. what a thrill to be in the woods hiking again.
i hiked up to one of the carriage trails on a narrow path and then decided to descend on this carriage trail as the slope would be more gentle. one or two mosquitos insisted on buzzing around my head during most of the walk. the descent was much longer than the ascent. for a while i wondered if i was headed in the right direction. was i on the right path? mostly an issue because i was walking with a cane remember! going too far out of my way was not advised. i began to explore the parallels to my larger life at the moment - including the mosquitos who so well represented the nagging, pesky and useless thoughts that can circle my mind. with that recognition, i took the opportunity to shift my focus, to sidle over a little to get out of my own way. i looked around some more and enjoyed the landscape i was in, talked to the trees and smaller plants, sang, followed the sun... and very soon found i was indeed on the right path, and out of the woods and on my way home.
i walked for an hour and a half!
it was really a fine day. the hike and a healing session with a peruvian shaman shared the middle of the day. and i started the day with homemade buckwheat-quinoa flour pancakes piled high with fruit and nuts, and finished with the "wizard of oz" - ha! fun to giggle through that old childhood favorite.
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Friday, June 1, 2012
a love letter to my body
dear dear body,
this is a love letter for you. i am eternally thankful for your awesome intelligence and love.
some may question how a body with cancer is intelligent. they might suggest that it has failed or betrayed me. i know otherwise. it is very likely that this thing we call “cancer” is your way of dealing with a larger problem, a larger imbalance created by some combination of internal and external environmental factors. that you were and are doing everything in your power to right an untenable situation.
you’ve raised big questions in my life. questions i needed to look at squarely in the eye. further, i’d say, we as a society need to look at them as well. all of the individual bodies in our country form one larger, inter-related body. the statistics now are sobering - something like one out of every two people in the states will contend with cancer in his/her lifetime. the larger society-body is riddled with cancer - that is most certainly something that our society must reckon with.
why isn’t it true or possible that you created these tumors to act as organs of a kind, to help carry a burden too great for the organs i was born with..? others besides myself have suggested this before me. and why not, sensing that the burden was too great even for one new area to carry, you dispersed the weight, the work, to various parts of my body? - asking that the problem be carried, be supported, by a community of distinct areas in the body. and simultaneously, perhaps, you were pointing to where the larger trouble may lie. that you may speak a language something like that of dreams - in metaphors or striking imagery...
i believe and trust implicitly your innate wisdom and finely calibrated intuition. speak to me as you have. i am listening with greater and greater sensitivity. i am heeding and will heed your call, your cry of “enough!” or “stop!” or “get me support now.” i am here, it is my mission to listen and hear as best i can your needs, your messages, your wisdom and act on it, to support you in all the ways i know how. i’ve felt from the beginning that you know perfectly well how to heal me, but, right now, you need a great deal of support to do that.
i love you. unconditionally.
as i know you love me. unconditionally.
your love is big and beautiful and extraordinarily supportive. thank you, dear body.
much love,
your eternally grateful student,
wendy
dear dear body,
this is a love letter for you. i am eternally thankful for your awesome intelligence and love.
some may question how a body with cancer is intelligent. they might suggest that it has failed or betrayed me. i know otherwise. it is very likely that this thing we call “cancer” is your way of dealing with a larger problem, a larger imbalance created by some combination of internal and external environmental factors. that you were and are doing everything in your power to right an untenable situation.
you’ve raised big questions in my life. questions i needed to look at squarely in the eye. further, i’d say, we as a society need to look at them as well. all of the individual bodies in our country form one larger, inter-related body. the statistics now are sobering - something like one out of every two people in the states will contend with cancer in his/her lifetime. the larger society-body is riddled with cancer - that is most certainly something that our society must reckon with.
why isn’t it true or possible that you created these tumors to act as organs of a kind, to help carry a burden too great for the organs i was born with..? others besides myself have suggested this before me. and why not, sensing that the burden was too great even for one new area to carry, you dispersed the weight, the work, to various parts of my body? - asking that the problem be carried, be supported, by a community of distinct areas in the body. and simultaneously, perhaps, you were pointing to where the larger trouble may lie. that you may speak a language something like that of dreams - in metaphors or striking imagery...
i believe and trust implicitly your innate wisdom and finely calibrated intuition. speak to me as you have. i am listening with greater and greater sensitivity. i am heeding and will heed your call, your cry of “enough!” or “stop!” or “get me support now.” i am here, it is my mission to listen and hear as best i can your needs, your messages, your wisdom and act on it, to support you in all the ways i know how. i’ve felt from the beginning that you know perfectly well how to heal me, but, right now, you need a great deal of support to do that.
i love you. unconditionally.
as i know you love me. unconditionally.
your love is big and beautiful and extraordinarily supportive. thank you, dear body.
much love,
your eternally grateful student,
wendy
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Thursday, May 24, 2012
interdependence - thoughts from me on my healing path...
i’ve been thinking more about the nature of interdependence, and how it is infinitely more interesting and meaningful to me than independence. independence is over-rated, particularly in this country. for a long time, i was instructed to be independent. and then described as such. like it was some prize. it is not.
what feels most right and true is to live knowing, feeling, rocking on the understanding, that i am with - that i am inextricably linked with everything and everyone, that i am a part of a vast tapestry of supportive, interdependent beings and creatures and energies. and with this vital knowledge and experience permeating my entire being, my every cell, i feel and i will feel differently, my relationships are different and become different. leaning into someone or something is the natural thing to do, as is standing strong so that someone else can do the same with me. that together, hand in hand, we create and build our lives, and love our lives, and love life and one another.
sounds obvious perhaps. but i’ve come to see just how ingrained in me was/is (be gone already!) the notion that to be strong is to not need help or be dependent on others. and that to be this kind of strong was the only acceptable or safe way. further, now, i can see how, while i've been experiencing fine support of all kinds during this difficult time in my life, i’ve been harboring a fear that when i become stronger, and am fully healed, support will vanish. that’s troubling for someone in my current state of health, who wants full recovery. i need to know, in every facet of my being, that even as i get stronger and stronger, support will still be there. i am supported. no question. strength and support - strength through support - are vital partners in a life lived and lived well. the healing continues...
*****
i saw my surgeon again last week. it was a more reassuring visit than the last two. he was very pleased to see increased bone growth in my femur. he said, “i don’t know how you’re doing it, but you’re growing bone.” yes, indeed! my respect for my body’s wisdom and knowledge has grown a hundredfold since last summer. i’m doing everything in my power to support it, and it’s using that support in just the way it needs. so, the surgeon says that i can begin walking unaided indoors and continue with the cane outdoors. he is now less worried about falls. he’s feeling more confident about the strength of the area, and that now the metal rod itself is getting some of the support it needs from the newly formed bone. i hadn’t realized until the last visit in february that the relationship between the rod and bone needs to be a mutually supported one for long-term health. mmm, yes... naturally.
lots of love to you all,
wendy
i’ve been thinking more about the nature of interdependence, and how it is infinitely more interesting and meaningful to me than independence. independence is over-rated, particularly in this country. for a long time, i was instructed to be independent. and then described as such. like it was some prize. it is not.
what feels most right and true is to live knowing, feeling, rocking on the understanding, that i am with - that i am inextricably linked with everything and everyone, that i am a part of a vast tapestry of supportive, interdependent beings and creatures and energies. and with this vital knowledge and experience permeating my entire being, my every cell, i feel and i will feel differently, my relationships are different and become different. leaning into someone or something is the natural thing to do, as is standing strong so that someone else can do the same with me. that together, hand in hand, we create and build our lives, and love our lives, and love life and one another.
sounds obvious perhaps. but i’ve come to see just how ingrained in me was/is (be gone already!) the notion that to be strong is to not need help or be dependent on others. and that to be this kind of strong was the only acceptable or safe way. further, now, i can see how, while i've been experiencing fine support of all kinds during this difficult time in my life, i’ve been harboring a fear that when i become stronger, and am fully healed, support will vanish. that’s troubling for someone in my current state of health, who wants full recovery. i need to know, in every facet of my being, that even as i get stronger and stronger, support will still be there. i am supported. no question. strength and support - strength through support - are vital partners in a life lived and lived well. the healing continues...
*****
i saw my surgeon again last week. it was a more reassuring visit than the last two. he was very pleased to see increased bone growth in my femur. he said, “i don’t know how you’re doing it, but you’re growing bone.” yes, indeed! my respect for my body’s wisdom and knowledge has grown a hundredfold since last summer. i’m doing everything in my power to support it, and it’s using that support in just the way it needs. so, the surgeon says that i can begin walking unaided indoors and continue with the cane outdoors. he is now less worried about falls. he’s feeling more confident about the strength of the area, and that now the metal rod itself is getting some of the support it needs from the newly formed bone. i hadn’t realized until the last visit in february that the relationship between the rod and bone needs to be a mutually supported one for long-term health. mmm, yes... naturally.
lots of love to you all,
wendy
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Wednesday, May 16, 2012
the juice
the ongoing healing process can be all-absorbing. and sometimes the email/internet way of communicating seems less than appealing. i get so i crave a voice, our voices, in conversation.
i’ve made some truly remarkable discoveries in the last month or two. i’m going to be vague for the moment because i’m still learning so much about this new realm that i can now consciously step into or invite. but i’ll tell you, it rocks in the most powerfully juicy way.
and then there’s this: i’m feeling some combination of being on a strong healing path and on the lookout for dark clouds in the sky.... and trying to forget those dark clouds... get out from under just the possibility of them... or see them in a larger, more meaningful context... hold their dark, somber material in my hands, turn them around and study them... swim in them.. or dissolve them with joy! this time of year, this transition from winter to spring, has given me trouble in previous years. this year it’s hit me more on the emotional plane.... my emotions have been rolling up and down. there’s some serious grieving going on, and so much else...
so, there is a regular meditation to keep clear on my path and light in my mind and my heart, to focus on healed, and, at the same time, acknowledging and honoring all of my very real needs at this time.. changes day to day. listen, listen closely, wendy - what does your body/mind/spirit tell you is the way today? be here, inside this moment. it’s a delicate and spirited dance this healing path...
it’s both a serious endeavor and one that begs a great deal of fun and playfulness and improvisation. and remembering that joy is my protection and birthright.
there are a whole host of specific means to treat or work-play with the body/mind/spirit that is ill. at root, though, the most helpful medicine i’ve found, no matter what form, is steeped in the juices of love and generosity and profound support. that it’s with that that different paths are suggested, doors open, and real health blossoms...
love to hear from you!
writing is good. calling is better. to hear your voice, to use mine, as we engage in conversation - oh, that feels good.
cell service is weird here. so don’t get discouraged. oftentimes i’m sitting right next to the phone when you call and it doesn’t ring. i only get your message. so leave a message! because, also, the “history” on my phone may not register your number. without your message, to me, it’s like you never called..!
if you’re on skype - let me know. would be great to see your face as we talk.
last, but not least, it’s my birthday next week - may 6. special poignancy to this one. celebrate with me, in whatever way you can. happily, next weekend i’ll be deep into the ecstatic chant at the omega institute. i received an all expenses paid grant to attend. yes! i will float a bright, sunlit, kirtan cloud into my birthday.
much love to you all,
wendy
email: shusterstudio@yahoo.com
art website: ShusterStudio
healing journey blog: the juice - a healing journey
skype: wendy.shuster
the ongoing healing process can be all-absorbing. and sometimes the email/internet way of communicating seems less than appealing. i get so i crave a voice, our voices, in conversation.
i’ve made some truly remarkable discoveries in the last month or two. i’m going to be vague for the moment because i’m still learning so much about this new realm that i can now consciously step into or invite. but i’ll tell you, it rocks in the most powerfully juicy way.
and then there’s this: i’m feeling some combination of being on a strong healing path and on the lookout for dark clouds in the sky.... and trying to forget those dark clouds... get out from under just the possibility of them... or see them in a larger, more meaningful context... hold their dark, somber material in my hands, turn them around and study them... swim in them.. or dissolve them with joy! this time of year, this transition from winter to spring, has given me trouble in previous years. this year it’s hit me more on the emotional plane.... my emotions have been rolling up and down. there’s some serious grieving going on, and so much else...
so, there is a regular meditation to keep clear on my path and light in my mind and my heart, to focus on healed, and, at the same time, acknowledging and honoring all of my very real needs at this time.. changes day to day. listen, listen closely, wendy - what does your body/mind/spirit tell you is the way today? be here, inside this moment. it’s a delicate and spirited dance this healing path...
it’s both a serious endeavor and one that begs a great deal of fun and playfulness and improvisation. and remembering that joy is my protection and birthright.
there are a whole host of specific means to treat or work-play with the body/mind/spirit that is ill. at root, though, the most helpful medicine i’ve found, no matter what form, is steeped in the juices of love and generosity and profound support. that it’s with that that different paths are suggested, doors open, and real health blossoms...
love to hear from you!
writing is good. calling is better. to hear your voice, to use mine, as we engage in conversation - oh, that feels good.
cell service is weird here. so don’t get discouraged. oftentimes i’m sitting right next to the phone when you call and it doesn’t ring. i only get your message. so leave a message! because, also, the “history” on my phone may not register your number. without your message, to me, it’s like you never called..!
if you’re on skype - let me know. would be great to see your face as we talk.
last, but not least, it’s my birthday next week - may 6. special poignancy to this one. celebrate with me, in whatever way you can. happily, next weekend i’ll be deep into the ecstatic chant at the omega institute. i received an all expenses paid grant to attend. yes! i will float a bright, sunlit, kirtan cloud into my birthday.
much love to you all,
wendy
email: shusterstudio@yahoo.com
art website: ShusterStudio
healing journey blog: the juice - a healing journey
skype: wendy.shuster
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